Monday, June 30, 2008

Our Angel Baby

We're back at home now, and settling in. We are blessed to have grandparents here to ride herd on the kiddos so we can sleep and/or rest.

For those of you who want a few more details about what happened, here you go. Lindsey woke up around 4:30am wanting to be re-situated on the bed. The nurse checked her and found that she was a "6", so we figured it was go-time. We made a few phone calls to people who were to be present for Caden's grand entrance while the nurse shifted Lindsey. Just a few minutes later, she checked Lindsey again and saw that she was a "10" and ready to go. Obviously, this was incredibly fast, and we were all caught off guard. The nurses hurriedly began to prep her for delivery, and the doctor -- who lived about an hour away, so she had stayed on the floor overnight -- was called in. The wonderful perinatologist who would evaluate Caden was paged.

When the doctor came in, she took one look at Lindsey and knew she was ready to go RIGHT NOW. Lindsey asked if we could wait to let people get to the hospital, but the doctor said waiting wasn't an option. About a minute later, almost before we were even ready and without Lindsey even pushing, Caden joined us. He never drew a single breath.

He weighed 3 pounds 2 ounces, and was 15 inches long. He looked totally peaceful, with a face that resembles his brother and sister's and a fair amount of reddish-blonde hair. Despite all that we had been told about how he might appear due to the lack of fluid present, he was beautiful. Our precious little angel. Above is a picture of Caden in a basket that the hospital allowed us to use while we were there.

Thank you all for your loving prayers and support. We would not have been able to get through this without all of you! To see all those comments and visits on the blog is to know that we are loved by many, many people, and that is priceless to us. We will take the next few days to gather ourselves together and attempt to re-establish a new 'normal' pattern of life. In lieu of flowers or memorials, we are considering a few options for donations, and will post more information when we make a decision.

Thank you all for bearing this burden with us, and for lifting us up daily. We can feel that when our strength is gone, yours holds us up, and your prayers sustain us.

24 comments:

Anonymous said...

He is so Precious! I'm glad to hear you are home. You continue to be in my prayers. Hang on tight to each other as your emotional rollercoaster will be taking you on wild ride for awhile.

Tracy

Anonymous said...

Beautiful indeed! Find peace that your mom is delighted to welcome him home. Rest, heal and lean on those around you for love and support. Call us if you need absolutely anything.

Love,
Paula, Howard and Alexandra

Robyn said...

Your son is beautiful, just like his siblings. We love him and we love you!
Robyn and Ben

The Maggio's said...

He is beautiful! We are continually praying. We love you.

Anonymous said...

Lindsey and Brandon
Caden is absolutely beautiful---just as I imagined! I know it didn't "start/end" the way you were hoping, but I'm glad this part of the journey is over for you and you have seen your and God's handiwork---
Our thoughts and prayers are still with you both and Kylee and Connor.
Thank you for allowing us to be part of your journey.
Love
Liz and Maggie
ps. please give Connor and Kylee a hug from Maggie!!

Laurie in Ca. said...

He is beautiful and perfect. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. My prayers continue daily for you, asking the Lord to give you His strength and comfort. Lindsey, you did amazing as Caden's mommy, loving him with your whole being as you carried him. I am so sorry my friend and I will continue to lift you and your family up to the One who holds Caden in His loving arms.

Love, Laurie in Ca.

Sheryl said...

Absolutely beautiful! Thank you for sharing! Continued prayers for you!

Anonymous said...

Caden is the most adorable little angel. I am glad you made it home and are able to relax for awhile. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.

Love,
Jen & Will

Anonymous said...

Caden....what a sweet little doll baby....an angel for sure. We continue to pray for God to give you strength in your healing.
love, kirsten
ps. Thank you in advance for your guidance on direction of donations. We will honor Caden Adair and his family in this way...hopeful that it aids in your healing, celebrates Caden, and potentially gives hope to others.

Anonymous said...

Caden is a beautiful baby boy. He is a true angel. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Much love, Rachelle

Anonymous said...

Brandon & Lindsey,

Grandma and Grandpa, Mim and I have been in deep prayer these last several days. However, your brave and courageous words ministered peace to all of us. Caden is truly beautiful. God is sovereign and our prayer for you all is to experience his grace at this time. We love you guys and will be keeping in touch.

Heather said...

He is absolutely beautiful. I pray strength, comfort, and rest for you and your family. Thank you for sharing this journey and the beautiful picture of Caden. continued prayers and thoughts,
Heather

Anonymous said...

I 'accidently' ran across your blog tonight when I typed in a URL wrong. Although I truly don't believe anything happens by 'accident'. Your son is absolutely beautiful! There aren't words enough in the world to describe how sorry I am for your loss, so I won't even try. Please know that I will be lifting your family up to our heavenly Father not only tonight, but in the days and weeks to come. May you feel His arms around you when as your heart is aching and you need support.

Carrie

Anonymous said...

Lindsey and Brandon,
Caden is so precious. Thank you for sharing this special photo; he looks alotlike Connor and Kylie. I am glad you are home together now. I will continue to pray as you rest.
Wanda

Kylee said...

Caden is beautiful. Continuing to pray...

Christy said...

Caden is beautiful. The praying continues.

~Link

Anonymous said...

Tears have been flowing since I read the news yesterday. Sad tears that things did not go the way we wanted, but happy tears that Caden is now with Grandma and Jesus. In my years as a nurse I have noticed that loved ones tend to pass when we are not in the room. No matter how long we stay at the bedside, they will pass when we go to the bathroom! I believe this is because their room floods with Angels that we are not supposed to see yet. Your family was not in the room when Caden joined you but, Oh My, the Angels that must have beeen there. My thoughts and prayers are continuously with you. Lean on those angel wings that are supporting you now.
Mindy H.

amy s said...

Carlsons, Caden is a most precious baby and such a blessed boy to have spent the wonderful time he had with your family. We uplift your family in our prayers and are here for anything you may ever need.
The Steinbecks

Anonymous said...

Brandon and Lindsey,

Jeff, Julie, Anna, Micah, Elijah & Jacqueline Waugh want you to know that we are sorry about your loss. We pray God's mercy on you, and are thankful that the Lord is your Shepherd.

Pastor Jeff

Pamela (His maidservant) said...

Lindsey and Brandon, He is so beautifl, so precious and my heart breaks for you. I pray God's peace will overwhelm you at this time of loss.
"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also abounds through Christ. ~2 Corinthians 1:3-5

Prayerfully, Pamela

Chandra said...

He is beautiful. Know you are still in our prayers.

Debbie said...

What a beautiful baby boy! We never know what is in store when we welcome God's children into our lives. Remember some of the joy and allow yourselves time to feel the sorrow. You are remarkably strong people. Thank you for sharing with us. We will continue our prayers for you in these weeks ahead. If or when you want to get away, you are welcome to use our lodge again.

Debbie (Ashley's Mom)

Laurie in Ca. said...

Hi Lindsey and Brandon,

I am thinking about you this afternoon and praying for you to feel the Lords comfort all around you. I must say again that Caden is just so beautiful and perfect. I am so sorry for your pain.

Laurie in Ca.

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